Sunday, December 1, 2013
article on mental toughness -- got me thinking how I fare. I think that I've come a long way and I'm quite aware of where I need to improve.
1. Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself: I admittedly do this a little bit, but it's short-lived because I know that it is a waste of time. Luckily I can easily catch myself doing it and quickly remember that I SO MUCH to be grateful for.
2. Don't give away your power: it's easy to blame a situation or person for my bad mood, but again I can usually work myself out of this by realizing that I am choosing my behaviour.
3. Don't shy away from change: got it -- change 101: if I can see the benefit of the change to me and my family, then I'm usually comfortable with change
4. Don't waste energy on things you can't change: Hmmm. K, I suck at this. BUT I realize when I'm doing it and try hard to ACCEPT
5. Don't fear taking calculated risks: k, I'm pretty risk averse as of late .. but I think that's more a product of my age and lifestyle.
6. Don't dwell on the past: alright, I like to take trips down memory lane to re-live those glory days, especially when my babies were young. But I time-box it. The past is in the past. Inner-peace is in the present, which is where I want to spend most of my energy. It's a gift!
7. Don't make the same mistakes over and over: FAIL. I can't even type more on this. Emotional situations make me lose my sensibility! Luckily the business student in me sees opportunities for improvement all the time.
8. Don't resent other people's success: I'm pretty good about seeing other people's success as being something that's separate from my own success. However, the green-eyed monster does rear it's ugly head from time to time, especially when people younger people leap frog me. I'm learning to get used to it, because it will only get worse in my career. I already have a manager who is younger than me.
9. Don't give up after your first failure: I'm not sure that I agree with this one. Aterall, "play to your strengths" and "know when to fold 'em" has served me well. Although, I do believe in learning through trying and staying focused on your goals. You just have to be realistic.
10. Don't fear alone time: I don't do this! In fact I love the time I have alone with my thoughts and ideas. I have big ideas afterall :-)
11. Don't expect immediate results: K, I don't do this ... especially with weight loss. I am inherently impatient. But I'm wise enough to know that baby steps should be celebrated. The journey is as important as the reward.
12. Don't worry about pleasing everyone: this one is tough because intellectually I know that you'll waste your time trying to please everyone in life. As a mother, it's hard not to want to please everyone, especially when I see that my actions affect more people than just me. This is very much related to #4 -- I can't change other people's perceptions. Their disappointment is theirs.
13. Don't feel the world owes you anything: yep!