Untethered Soul. Our constant anxious self talk is suffering. It's because our psyche is so messed up that we think about it so much (e.g. worry if he won't like you, or replay what we said earlier). Interesting that we rarely think about our physical bodies; only when there's something wrong (e.g. injury, illness). Yet with our minds constantly 'on', our psyches must be f'ed up. Yep. This book says that the dysfunction comes from fear. We've given our psyches the impossible responsibility to make the world right.
From the book: "You said to your mind: I want everyone to like me. I don't want anyone to speak badly of me. I want everything I say and do to be acceptable and pleasing to everyone. I don't want anyone to hurt me. I don't want anything to happen that I don't like. And I want everything to happen that I do like."
Whoa! talk about a tall order. No wonder my mind won't shut up! And so my mind gives me lots of advice on how to change external things, so that my problems can be fixed. But the thing is, it never works. But I keep listening. For example, if you feel loneliness, your mind tells you that the solution is to find a relationship. However, that does not address the root of the problem which is that you don't feel whole and complete within yourself. And so it goes. The way to be free of my psyche making all these demands of me is to tell it that it's job is not to try and fix all my personal problems. It's that easy.